Self-love equates to your happiness

Misconceptions

Often we have this misconception that self-love is about loving thyself, akin to vanity and selfishness. But, self-love means different things to different people. In the same breath, it can also be defined as “love of self” or “regard for one’s own happiness”. Which is a basic human need. Somewhere along the way in life you start to neglect this need, you forget that Self-love equates to your happiness.

When you get into business, one of the first rules you learn as an entrepreneur is, “To make sure you pay yourself a salary, before you reinvest it all”. There are a few reasons for this which you can read at www.bizjournals.com. However one of the reasons stated is “If you don’t get a decent return, it might be hard to maintain your interest in the business given how hard you have to work”. So why don’t we apply this same rule to our personal lives? You have to learn to give to yourself first, self-love, to be able to and want to continue giving your best to others.

Letting Go of Preconceived Ideas

We were brought up to believe that to be a good person, you have to put everyone else’s needs first before your own. You may be a good person but will you be a happy person if those in your life are not reciprocating. If you are looking to or waiting for your partners, friends and family members to fulfill you. Then, sadly you will be waiting a long time. Because no one knows you and understands what you desire and need more than yourself!

Find yourself, find your happiness and those around you will benefit

Self-love equates to your happiness. I DO NOT mean love yourself and forsake all others. I simply mean, you can’t give from a cup that is nearly empty. The value of self-love is that when you find what makes YOU happy and are living your purpose you will be in a better headspace to give more value to others. And therefore more pleasant to be around. You will feel less frustrated, less anxious and less stressed. People will choose to be around you and will want to emulate what you have achieved.

How to practice Self-love that equates to your happiness

• Firstly, dispel any feelings of guilt that you may have or any beliefs that self-love is a selfish act
• Choose to discover what it is that makes you happy and put pen to paper
• Take Action – take the necessary steps towards getting what you desire.
• Start thinking positive thoughts, positive thoughts leads to positive action.
• Never give up on yourself – for most of us this action of self-love will take us out of our comfort zone. Our neurology, will start creating reasons why you shouldn’t find self-love which equates to your happiness. Reasons like, “There is no time” or “Thinking about what I need or desire is selfish” or “Its too late for me” , Persevere!
• Remember that there is no pride in asking for help . Back in the day they knew, “It took a village”.

Think about it, a happier more fulfilled you will bring out the best in you! Your cup will be full and you will have much more to give to those you care about.