Becoming a mommy is the most incredible job – and feeling – in the world. However, somewhere along the way you as a woman have begun to lose yourself.
Have you lost the spark in your relationship? Have you lost the spark in you? Would you like to find the “Me” in Mommy again?
Motherhood – becoming a mommy – is the most incredible job (and feeling) – in the world. However, somewhere along the way, amidst the bottles, nappies, crying, sleepless nights, work, groceries, meals and carpooling you as a woman have begun to lose yourself.
You lose the spark in you that makes you feel alive and desirable. You are just too tired! So you navigate through life on autopilot. Swapping your fancy clothes for comfortable clothes, your fun nights out for a quiet night in and your self-development books or romance novels for parent circulars. As the days pass, then the years you become a watered-down version of the woman you once were.
Until one day, either when you start to see and experience the cracks in your marriage or when the kids get a little older and become less reliant on you, you begin to question your purpose.
“What has become of me, what has become of the woman I once was?” You look in the mirror and you don’t recognise yourself any longer. Nor do you like what you see.
Maybe it’s time to, find the “me” in Mommy again.
I once walked in your shoes . . .
My epiphany came five years ago. My kids were 4 and 5 at the time. I had lost complete control of myself, and my marriage. My husband and I began to coexist doing only what was necessary for the kids and our families.
Our communication with each other was strained and when we did go away together on rare moments we just argued. I felt he wasn’t doing enough for me and the kids, that he wasn’t present and he felt that I was neglecting him and his needs. The commonalities we once shared were becoming less and less. I struggled emotionally and mentally.
My existence altered the moment I decided to make a change within myself. To take my life back into my own hands and invest in myself and my growth. I have not looked back since. As for my marriage, it is at the strongest point that it’s ever been 13 years later.
During this journey of motherhood, I have interacted with many women through my coaching and various women empowerment initiatives and I’ve come to realise that I was not alone in my struggles.
And neither are you.
What has to happen for your life to change
The reality is that change is hard. You have to acknowledge that something is broken and be willing and determined to do whatever it takes to fix it.
You have to accept that if your circumstances are going to change, it has to start with you! Not your husband, children, parents, friends and certainly not your mother-in-law.
Lastly, you have to stop feeling guilty and embrace the idea of self-love. Putting your mental well-being first does not mean you love your children or husband less. It means you are doing whatever it takes to make sure that you are happy and fulfilled.
Ultimately when you are feeling happy and confident within yourself, you will be projecting that onto your kids, husband and the world at large.
How can my coaching help you find yourself during motherhood
First of all, know that I am like you. I understand you and what you are feeling. This inner conflict that you are experiencing, I have been there.
This feeling of, “I want more for my life but I feel so guilty being selfish in my needs.”
Through my coaching you:
- Rediscover yourself and what excites you
- Find your inner power and inner goddess
- Let go of negative emotions such as guilt, fear, self-doubts and sadness
- Gain confidence in yourself and your capabilities
- Find your purpose and get a clear direction of what you desire to achieve your goals
- Get motivation and encouragement
- Learn how you can achieve a work-life balance
- Become happier within yourself (which benefits your family)
- Start having better relationships with those you value and love
You will thereafter wake up with a renewed sense of purpose, confidence and excitement for your life. And the time you spend with your family will be quality time.
- Contact me now to make that change for you in your life!